Fellow prep school student. Roommate at the University of Michigan, freshman and senior year. 1964 and 1967. Yes, many moons ago.
Taught me so many things. We were a team. The two ridiculous brothers. Going to parties at U of M. Smoking dope. Inhale. Cough. Pass that joint. Whew.
Competitive. Both won awards at U of M for writing. We would be writers. Maybe. We both had domineering fathers.
Jewishness. Learned most everything from Rick. Went to his house one weekend when I was a teenager at prep school. His family, very Jewish, culturally. At dinner. Talk:
“Let’s do the ‘What’s Jewish’ thing,” Rick said. “I’m in control.” He knitted his fingers together and spread them out. “So,” Rick said, picking up a salt shaker, “what about salt?”
“Salt is Jewish,” Mr. Stolorow, his father, said. He wore huge glasses that went far beyond his eyes.
“Pepper is Christian.”
“Ok, what about water?” Rick asked.
“Water is Christian,” Mr. Stolorow decreed. “Ice is Jewish.” He came up with answers immediately, as if they were obvious. He was the Supreme Court of what was Jewish.
I blinked in wonder. Growing up Christian in a small Virginia town, I knew nothing of this.
“Potatoes?” Rick asked.
“Mashed potatoes...” Mr. Stolorow paused and reflected, “can be either Jewish or Christian. Baked potatoes are Christian.”
“What about boats?” Rick asked.
“Sailboats are Christian,” Mr. Stolorow said. “Powerboats are Jewish. Everyone knows that.”
“Boiled chicken is Jewish. Fried chicken is Christian. But chicken in general is Jewish.”
Mr. Stolorow looked at Rick as if a three-star chef had just been asked to flip a burger.
“What about card games? Poker?”
“Poker is definitely Christian. Gin rummy is Jewish.”
I listened, slowly ate my food in amazement.
“Speaking of gin,” Rick said, “what about—gin?”
“Gin is Jewish.," Mr. Stolorow said. "Scotch is Christian. Though that may be changing.”
“Christian. Catholic, even.”
“Budweiser is Christian. Stroh’s is…” he named the local beer, “both Jewish and Christian. But,” he raised a finger in refinement, “Jews are not great beer lovers.”
“Mailboxes are Christian. Mail slots are Jewish.”
I wanted to contribute.
“What about dogs?” I asked abruptly.
Everyone turned and looked at me. For a split second I wasn’t sure if I’d committed a grave mistake. I’d entered a world uninvited.
Mr. Stolorow eyed me. Was I making fun of him? He paused. I held my breath. Then he spoke.
“Poodles are Christian," he said. Then he looked down at their own dog and his drooling, gummy maw. "Boxers," he decreed, "are Jewish."
|Rick Stolorow, top row, second from left. Only photo I can find.|